Category Archives: Connection

Tip #4 Holidays – Be Present & Pay Attention

Tip #4 is be present and pay attention.  It’s possible to “miss” good chunks of your life because you’re so focused on getting things done – or thinking about the future or the past – that you forget to pay … Continue reading

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Teen Stress: “Be There for Me”

The San Mateo County Department of Education’s “Respect 24/7” conference, held in late October, provided a sobering opportunity to hear teens talk about what they need from us as parents, teachers, school administrators.  Data compiled in the County of San … Continue reading

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Time Out – Bad News for Brains

A recent TIME magazine article by Dr. Dan Siegel explains why time out is not a tool you should be using with your kiddos. First, Dr. Siegel says time out is the #1 discipline tool used by parents and the … Continue reading

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The Power of Connection (part 3)

OK, now you’re ready to rock and roll – take care of the business at hand! How to correct your child? Correction might mean you need to spend more time teaching or training your child.  Did the dishes get done … Continue reading

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The Power of Connection (part 1)

Jane Nelsen (author of the Positive Discipline series of books) says, “Children will listen to you after they feel listened to”. Sigh. How do you know when someone is really listening to you?  Think about your own experience. In my private … Continue reading

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Fathers Know Best

Do you take risks, set boundaries, and move with confidence in the world?  You might say “Thanks, Dad!” Most Dads do whatever it takes.  They work long hours.  They fix things (expertise not required).  They listen when you have had … Continue reading

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Letting Go Without Abandoning (Part 3)

After dinner, she came running around a corner, and slipped and fell on the floor.  More tears. My brain began to catastrophize – about the homework that hadn’t been started yet.  I helped her up, telling myself, “Just be calm … Continue reading

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Easy Family Meetings

What if there was a way to boost the feeling of connection and significance for each person in your family in just 10 minutes a week?  Would you be interested? What if it also helped fill your emotional “tank”, while … Continue reading

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Is “Nice” Enough?

I’ve been having some conversations with my 8 year old daughter about friendship.  Our culture often expects girls, especially, to be “nice”.  But is “nice” enough? Positive Discipline encourages us to think about where we want to end up on … Continue reading

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Pay Now or Pay Later?

Yesterday was Tax Day.  I’ve been thinking about the fact that in parenting, you can “pay now” or “pay later”, but either way, you pay!   By “pay” I mean investing our time in connection, kind and firm guidance, and (mostly!) … Continue reading

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