Positive Discipline is a program designed to teach young people to become responsible, respectful and resourceful members of their communities. Based on the best selling Positive Discipline books by Dr. Jane Nelsen, Lynn Lott, Cheryl Erwin, Kate Ortolano, Mary Hughes, Mike Brock, Lisa Larson and others, it teaches important social and life skills in a manner that is deeply respectful and encouraging for both children and adults (including parents, teachers, childcare providers, youth workers, and others).
Recent research tells us that children are “hardwired” from birth to connect with others. Children who feel a sense of connection to their community, family, and school are less likely to misbehave.
To be successful, contributing members of their community, children must learn necessary social and life skills.
Positive Discipline is based on the understanding that discipline must be taught and that effective discipline teaches.
In the words of Dr. Jane Nelson, “our greatest ability to influence our children happens over time in a relationship based on mutual respect”.
Below are 5 Criteria for Effective Discipline. How do your discipline tools compare?
1. Is it kind and firm at the same time? (respects the needs of the adult/situation and respects the needs of the child)
2. Does it help children feel a sense of belonging and significance? (connection)
3. Is it effective long-term? (punishment may work in the short-term, but has negative long-term results)
4. Does it teach valuable social and life skills for good character? (respect, concern for others, problem solving, accountability)
5. Does it help children feel and become capable?