‘Tis the season to put on your own oxygen mask! The hardest thing about doing this is telling the truth to yourself. Tip #2 is Get Honest.
If you’re thinking, “This doesn’t apply to me,”try this simple test: think of something you regularly complain about. Got one? Good. Now, if it involves another person, find a way to make a request directly in order to resolve your complaint. What are you tolerating? In yourself? In your relationships? From your kids?
There are many opportunities to practice being honest. The reward to taking a risk in rocking the boat? You may be able to come up with something better than what you’re currently settling for.
Even though it can be uncomfortable, it’s worth sharing honestly with the ones you love.
When you’re fatigued or feeling resentful, you’re less likely to parent (or do much of anything else) the way you intend to.
Your moment of truth may be simple: “I’m fried and I can’t commit to one more thing!”,
Or it may hit you as you catch yourself doing something crazy and realizing this is not the exception, but has become commonplace for you
- racing around because you’re habitually late
- cooking separate meals for everyone in your family
- not enforcing limits (bedtime, screen time, extra-curricular activities)
- blaming others instead of taking responsibility for your part in interactions that went poorly
If you’re sleep deprived, you may have gotten used to it, but it’s not good for you. Did you know that being awake for 18 hours is equivalent to a blood-alcohol level of 0.08%, which is legally drunk and can leave you at equal risk for a crash. (Fun fact: People who work more than 60 hours a week and those who travel frequently for business are also more likely to suffer from sleep deprivation).
What do you need to be honest about?
With whom do you need to share this info?
How can you create a change?